To Love For Real, how to create a deep, meaningful and loving relationship without drama, pleasing and back-bending.
I want to live in a world where we live to thrive, not to survive.
To constantly worry, focus on what doesn’t work, to be ruled by fear to get stuck in the past - is rarely fruitful ( and yes, at moments necessary, I’ve been there, done that had about 1000 “ what’s wrong with me” t-shirts )
Being on the other side ( yet, sometimes in distress ) I constantly chose growth and possibility instead of cutting life off.
One precious life.
Instead of...
- what’s wrong with me ( how could it be wrong with anyone and who decides that? )
- I can’t do that!
- I can’t afford that
Ask questions that invite possibilities, such as:
- What else is possible?
- How can I make this happen?
- What are the possibilities?
- How can I turn my pain/trauma into a superpower helping others?
Personally, I have been through: sexual/verbal/mental abuse, taking a tremendous amount of drugs, had incredibly low self-esteem ( read non ), self-hatred, bulimia and co-dependency, and few other less desirable patterns that I used to believe in...
I have done the work, not a weekend workshop.
Nowadays, I can with confidence say, I know what am talking about and I can relate to where many come from...
And, my commitment is to make the utmost out of life and gently, lovingly kick the butt on those who desire to live in fulfillment too!
Eros is life force energy
Raw True Power
This power has been, and are, highly and widely misunderstood,
And many of us have sex from a headspace or influenced by porn or simply not knowing possibilities
That’s ok, truth is you miss out on the depth and fulness of s*x, arousal, and yourself…
What can you do?
Erotic reset is about turning all the ideas and believes what sexuality is
To find peace and sensations within
To find pleasure and joy within
To find the waves of ecstasy from deep within - and then share with another
And for this, you need to let go of the idea of what pleasure sensuality and sexuality is
The erotic reset is the reset of your unique & specific programming, believes, traumas, past, ideas & expressions
And if this resonates with you...
You will benefit from letting go of the idea of what pleasure sensuality and sexuality actually is.
It is time to demystify sexuality.
The word sex has so many flavors to it. Depending on who we are, for each individual, the meaning will be so different. What seems to bind many of us together is that we connect a lot of shame and guilt to our sexuality, to sexual energy.
What is really sexual arousal?
Many people don’t even allow themselves to feel aroused because they’ve been told it's ugly or wrong. Some people might have gone through terrible things and therefore for ending up denying their own sexuality.
If you look at society, everything is to some extent based on sex. At the same time, there is no proper sex education in the schools, we are not supposed to talk about it. Yet, everywhere sex sells.
The majority of marketing is based on sex
Porn is one of the biggest industries in the world
It all gives a very distorted angle on what sexuality is.
I would like to demystify sexuality into the purity that it really is. This pure, pure, thing that simmers through everything, through everyone. The energy that can come with the component of arousal and pleasure. Being connected with your sexual energy really marinates your body. It's universal medicine, it makes you feel happy and content.
When you stand in your sexuality, you stand in power.
From this place you can manifest, this is your creative life force.
Not only does it makes you feel fucking fabulous.
Sanna ( Sanita ) Beatrice
We all expose ourselves to unsupportive sítuations and life lessons.
In my experience, it is utterly important to listen inwards before you sit with teachers and gurus, as it is so much power games going on,
Back in the days, I didn’t have the power to stand up - fully.
Today I reclaim, and i hope you can do the same.
What is relaxed arousal?
Some of the key components for relaxed arousal are sound, breath & movement,
- If you don’t breathe properly, forget it, you just won’t feel it
- If you can’t sound, you miss out on a great opportunity to open your body deeper and express yourself more freely
- If you don’t move, there is no chance that you can circulate pleasure and activate the potential pleasure
These are the 3 keys to activate more pleasure in the body, and this is what we will discover together in the Erotic Reset. Are you joining me?
So what are some ways to experience relaxed arousal?
- Focusing on the breath, you want it to be long and deep and inviting. An invitation for your body to open.
- Playing with sound, you can discover your relationship to sound, is it challenging? Can you feel the vibration in the throat? Can you explore different tones without doing too much? Be curious. A feeling of letting go. The deeper your voice goes, you activate the lower centers of the body.
- Allowing your body to move is crucial. If you lay like a dead fish or a log you won’t feel much. The movements can alternate from small to large, inner connection is crucial!
This is for you who is longing to explore your own sensuality.
If you’re in a male body, you want to explore the feminine side of you. Imagine how you love a woman to be when you make love to her. Is it possible for you to invite her into yourself?
If you’re in a female body, invite the movement that feels good. Not to show off or perform. Just for the sake of pleasure and softness.
Follow the line of feeling good.
The fruits of inner work reflects the events in the outer world.
Worship not objectify, see the power of the divine in form and flesh.
Expressing herself as the suorce of infinitie. Love, power - magnificence.
Die for me
Not for you
See me as the ulitmate
Not the mortal
coem closer
If you dare
The merging will never fail
the hesitation is not the true self
The fear is not real
The real is non to fear.
Victim mentality can occur for understandable reasons, it has a time of feeling, blaming, making wrong, hurting. Yet, if this pattern sticks for too long. Risk is that we waste our lives.
Tantra, the path of the free re-wildered sensual soul, reclaim true power and live fully.
We are all here to live a mission, a purpose. Few of us are trained to think for ourselves, to act out of instinct or even to believe that our dreams are meant to be fulfilled. That what will bring a lot of satisfaction in life, is to reconnect and align with our true voice and essence.
I wrapped this up with taking a GIANT ( I mean GIANT ) leap that stretches me FAR outside the comfort zone, I learned on an energetic level what it takes for me to feel utterly uncomfortable VS comfortable at the same time taking my life very serious …
SexuaI healing, a potential to manipulate through power games or a profound healing modality?
I stand in my truth, which is not one side but what what my soul beliefs and speaks is from love and justice. Thats how I wish to operate – not bound to anyone or anything but the speaking moment of life itself.
The collective soul - we can awaken if we raise above the personal self.
Studies on freqiencies and emotions by Sir David Hawkins,
Through life we go through various forms of negative experiences, traumas, holding on to belitteling beliefsystems that than creates lower vibrations in our MINDS & BODIES.
The lower frequenciues, shame/guilt/fear, vibrates about 20Mhz/s ( see pic ) and are much more densed then the ex Joy, peace and love. Since the vibration of these are more dense, they therefor hinder true JOY, PEACE AND LOVE to be primary vibrations. When these lower vibrations owns the show/drive our lives, we have harder time to connect with the finer in , such as feel and see energy, feel REAL LOVE & TRU JOY, connection to oneness, something greater and the deep sense of belonging. The lack of the deep sense of belonging is the primary sickness on the planet, this is the hole we basically try to fill with X. The dissconnection from the finer vibrations are the cause on HOW WE CAN TREAT the earth and the planet as we do. If we connected to the higher vibrations, these kind of actions are not on the radar. 1. cus it simply is not an act form purity, 2. We feel that we belong to the earth and the pain of the earth is the pain of our soul.
Another MAIN CAUSE to this is that we live in a society that is based on SURVIVAL = fear/stress. More than living, we live to survive, to FIT IT, BE PART OF ( more fearbased and separated than in communion ) and BEHAVE, pay our bills and have a job - even if we hate it. All those actions are survival strategies - and as long YOU ALLOW that to CONTROL YOUR LIFE, you will be run by lower vibrations. Or you will priorotize that due to be controlled by lower vibrations.
Now, can you se why it is such a great tool to CONTROL us through fear, shame and guilt? CAn you see the benefit on why religion, rulers and goverments have done this? WHEN we vibrate on those lower frequencies, we are more receptive for being controlled - hence its a natural respons from our genetics to FIT IN. We can´t sense the TRUE JOY from within, yet which is always accessable... Its no wuhu, but actual facts andlogic lookig into it.
GOOD NEWS ARE
YOU ARE NOT BROKEN, but can chose to re-strucutre your life CHOSE to believe and follow the current which alspo makes you happy. And as teh meassure shows... the more you can raise your frequencie, the more you expand your reality.
SO THINK BIG, MAKE THE MOST OUR OF LIFE.
YOU ONLY HAVE ONE.
And YOU are the MASTER
If you want...
The fear of being alive or the fear of living?
Do you know the saying….
"Do unto others as we would have them do unto us."
What about the same one, with a twist?
"Do unto YOURSELF as you would have done unto others.".
For some, one truth might resonate more than the other. It seems as society, spiritual philosopy and other guidelines stems from to those who lived life from a superior ego.
Superior or inferior ego?
There are little talks about the inferior ego, maybe, cus many ( apologise of being unfare or stepping on someones toes ) spiritual teachers & leaders come from a more superior ego? It is more realistic that those charactheres would, reach out, preach and take lead...
Many guideline suggests " treat others as you want to be treated yourself"... and this of course awesome.
And
What if, some have a tendency to be more loving, kind and generous and "do unto YOURSELF as you would have done unto others" would resonate more?
Some do not actually live from a place self serving, there are genuinly kind pure hearted souls out there whom even do not live from a place of pleasing/over serving/ martyr.
Its rare thou.
And hard for the opposite to vibrate with, there is no reference point.
And most likely many won´t last to long as it sadly seems to be more normal ( with a twist ) with greed, power games and lies. Hence the guidline "do unto others as we would have them do unto us" might be more of a practise.
Is this to a refelction on how twisted things can be?
That it is legal to smoke cigarettes, produce pharmaceuticals, have women wear burqa and big brother to watch every step when many herbs are illegal, public breast feeding/nudity banned ( slightly exagerating ) and naiveity/innocence/open heart and genuine sweetness is seen as something weak and often abused?
The guideline, "do unto others as we would have them do unto us" is of course utterly important and just imagine how the world would look like if majority did their best to vibrate with this.
The cause I wrote turned from start to end, and I´ll come back to the struggle of the inferior ego. Until then "do unto YOURSELF as you would have done unto others"
That might work for both ends to wake up/realize value in one way or another.
Embracing my Humanity ❤
Arlanda Airport, heading to Tallin to teach an ISTA L1.
What I love with traveling is that I am in some kind of a free zone. I can write, watch ppl and be in my creative flow and own head - only. No-one but strangers around, no questions, no wants, no talking.
Yet, today, there is tremendous resistance inside. It starts to become a huge sacrifice to live like this, I don't want to hide with the thoughts, feelings, experience. I love what I do, I will always give it all when am in a workshop room. But everytime is a sacrifice of sleep, rhythm, food and last but not least - personal deep relationships & family.
When traveling so much, its impossible - for me - to root and build deep friendships, not talk about a lovers relationship and my beloved little nephews. Always on the go, always preparing for the next. Then its utterly important to have rejuvenation and lone time while being home, otherwise I won't last.
Take me right, am not complaining but being transparent and I can mention a large number of benefits to do what am doing, and how much I simply LOVE it - now its simply time to narrow down though and locally focus.
I realize, that for many years. Yes many. My human heart has been sacrificed for the sake of the "greater good", for spirit, for other humans, I have dedicated my life to support a healthy awakening on this planet - and my mission has gone before everything, simply cus the calling from inside has been so strong.
Since I been so open since childhood, and had early awakenings and samadhis, It feels as I have walked the way from heaven to earth, ascending/descending, instead of the path of many - earth to spirit. And now, its enough. I wanna nourish my human heart. I wanna be here and now and also create space to do what I want to do for the sake of personal and soulful joy. I wanna play that guitar, pick up dj’ing, take cooking class, martial art classes and singing lessons.
I simply want to be. Hold my human heart in hands, with no need to transcend anything, with no more need to do healing for the collective "in the name of sacrificing myself". I will always work for humanity, grow spiritually and do what I do - by simply being me.
Not that I haven't loved all the development and ALL what I've experienced, I lived many life time within this life . Its simply a new era and similar things will be done, just differently - with a touch of glitter, gold sparkles, high heels and laughter.
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On a side note in embracing my humanity....
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Believe me, on some levels, this is on of the toughest experiences I ever experienced. To let the seeker go. Who am I without the seeker? After aaaallll these years,
Here, I do meet fear.
Its profound, really profound.
To let go of the seeker, is to die to something I identified with for more than 20 years.
Fear is, if I let go. Will I then fall asleep? Be a zombie in society? Controlled and programmed? Loose the opportunity to free more? Being defeated cus this lifestyle is a challenging one in a modern society. Lets say in the word of saga “ evil wins, light is defeated “.
That is the deepest fear ever...
To fall asleep... ( hearing a little whisper in my ear, how could you possibly ever fall asleep? )
Yet am pondering, what happens if I let it go?
Truth is, I don'thave the energy to “ fight” it longer.
Yet, the thought of letting go, to be “normal”, just be here and now...in everyday life.
That thought..
Makes in this second, my heart pound.
And its not a pounding of excitement 😉
Boarding to the next adventure....
INTEGRITY - ALIGNMENT - YES AND NO - TRUSTINTEGRITY - ALIGNMENT - YES AND NO - TRUST
What does it mean to live in integrity and, to what are we living in integrity? Is it our soul purpose or ego driven behaviour? What are the fine lines of acting out of ego or soul? How far are we willing to go to compromise our souls, and for what? Most improtant, how does it feel when being in alignment and not? Is there a difference of "getting the will/my way through and being in alignment with soul purpose?
Wild like wonder feminine
Mature feminine opens the space, for all to feel enriched by her presence, she´s not afraid to shine nor to be beautiful. While the false feminine feeds of the energetic/attention of others. Immature feminine can seem to be enchanting, adoring & real. Yet it's strategy. For a sensitive being this is easy to spot yet the difference can be minimal, and one expression is not true or false - or even set in stone for divine or false. Both can be adoring!
Immature feminine often acts out of competition, envy and need of attention and she hides her truth in the shadow pretending to be real. While divine:mature feminine doesn't give a shit and celebrates it all - including humility and honesty with her sisters. Yet non is right or wrong - the false feminine is simply a shadow developed as survival strategy... Though, it's up to each and one to chose to shine light upon and thank "her" for the gifts and move on. Most of us play this role, some more some less.
Note..feminine and masculine PRINCIPLES